Wow! We got hit with a little snow and a lot of wind here in Hoosier Land! This has been a very mild winter thus far and now we are paying for it! Wind chills went down to the single digits – Hot Chocolate with mini marshmallows weather for sure! This is when I miss having kids around! My youngest just moved out so now I truly have an empty nest! Since the scriptures that we are covering deals with marriage, I am going to share a bit about myself. I was married for 28 years and that marriage ended when my youngest was 12, he is now almost 20 and just moved out to his own place. I need to say I am very proud of both my son and daughter. . I have a daughter that is 33, yes, there are 13 years between kids and they are both from the same marriage. There were some medical issues dealing conception from both of us. I say “my kids” when I should be saying “our kids”. The point I am trying to make is that it does not matter how long you have been married, if there are any weak areas, that is where satan will attack and try to bring it down. Keep your marriage maintianed! A minor tune up is much less costly than a major overhaul, but if that is what is needed- do the overhaul! Filing for divorce was the most difficult decision that I ever had to make. The fact is, it takes two working hard to make a marriage work, but it only takes one to destroy it with little effort. If you are having marital difficulties, seek wise counsel, preferably from a pastor or a qualified counselor that has the best interest of the family in mind. If the counselor takes either side- dump the counselor, and find another that will help with things like communication techniques and conflict resolution. Many times, neither party is wrong and both may even be right. All that being said, lets get back to the scripture- Last time we looked at how the wive is to relate to the husband- now GUYS- it our turn!
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and asbeing heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
“Dwell with them with understanding” – A Christian husband should be intimately aware of his wives needs, strengths, weaknesses, her goals and desires. A husband must know these things in order to know how to respond to her to give her the HONOR that she deserves. The phrase weaker vessel here is most likely referring to physical strength, since the term vessel in this context is the human body. Guys , pay special attention to the last sentence in this verse- if you marriage is not what it should be-If your relationship with your wife is falling short – then your prayers are hindered. Your relationship with God is effected by how you treat your wife. It is only Christians that are heirs to “the grace of life” this is a description of what your relationship with your wife should be- that is one that is full of grace!
Peter had more words for the wives but what Peter says to husbands- cuts right to the heart. It addresses the emotional and spiritual more than the outward. Peter is blunt and to the point here and does not sugar coat his words. Bottom line is, husbands, if you want your prayers to be effective, then your relationship with your wife needs to be loving, honoring, sincere, and from the heart and not just outward motions to appease for a time.